I thought that I would share a post that I published last week on LinkedIn, here as our first Ultimate Planners blog post. I had debated about it’s relevancy, but the more I thought about it – the more it emphasized why I created the Ultimate Law of Attraction Planner… because I needed a tool to help myself cope with PTSD. I will write more about that in a different post – because for now, I want to offer up a different perspective regarding the recent tragedy in Orlando. Below is an revision of what I posted on LinkedIn.
I feel it is far too important to remain silent about this topic, especially as June is PTSD Awareness Month.
Like many in the nation I have not stopped crying since the news of the Pulse Massacre became public. I have seen many posts floating around other social networks addressing this mindset: “I don’t understand. The way you are reacting, it’s almost like you knew someone in the club.”
I also shed tears for the victims. It is a terrible loss of life. My heart cries for the family members who have to continue their lives without their loved ones.
However, I have shed the bulk of my tears for the survivors.
I am also a survivor of a violent crime. I know what it feels like to be absolutely 10000% sure that your life is about to end. But then, for some unknown reason, it does not. You get to survive. And surviving is hard. PTSD is very real.
I cry for the survivors because I know the battle that they are about to face.
I cry for the survivors because they are going to need to return to regular life and be regular citizens.
I cry for the survivors because they have jobs and/or a businesses to which they will need to return, and they will need to relearn how to function again in a productive manner.
I cry for the survivors because they are our colleagues, business partners, coworkers, managers, and employees.
I cry for the survivors because their wounds are invisible.
I cry for the survivors because survival is also invisible. 3 or 5 or 10 years from now we will not know recognize them as survivors.
I cry for the survivors because at some point someone will say, “Oh, I would have not even known you have PTSD”. (None of us walk around with an identifying sign around our neck. We do not wear ‘I Have PTSD’ medical alert bracelets.)
I cry for the survivors because someone will say, “I don’t understand why you can’t manage your triggers better”.
I cry for the survivors because someone will start a sentence with, “but at least …”
I cry for the survivors because someone, who is completely uneducated in trauma, will say, “If you were that traumatized you wouldn’t be doing / wouldn’t have said _________”.
I cry for the survivors because everyone will ask them if they are “getting help”. And everyone will have opinions on what needs to be done to “help” them.
I shed these same tears for all survivors of violence. Personal struggles affect business. I ask for compassion for all survivors and people who struggle with PTSD. You do not know what another person’s triggers are – heck, they may not even know their own triggers. I think as business people and entrepreneurs we have influence; We can help provide a voice to a group of people who are otherwise voiceless. As business leaders we can set an example. When we work harder to treat our coworkers, employees, vendors, and competition with compassion,we can make progress and move forward.. #SpeakWithKindnessNotWithVenom